Happy weekend!

There is only 1 week to go to the marathon and, once again, I reflect on the parallels between running a marathon and running my coaching business.

The training for the marathon has been long, constant, emotional and – as an old colleague from Yorkshire always used to say to me: character building!

You can’t train for a marathon overnight and neither can you establish a business overnight. Once upon a time, both the thought of running a coaching business or running a marathon were not even something I dared to dream of and yet here I am, after a week of new beginnings and lots of work, reflecting on my journey.

I am excited about the marathon next week, a little nervous and a little trepidatious. Yet my confidence in my ability to run has grown over the weeks and I now know that I can run at least 25.2 miles because I physically did that last week. I also feel almost sad at the thought of completing the marathon and not having such a big milestone on the horizon, since training for it has become such a big part of my weekends.

In terms of my coaching business and the journey to establish a client base, I am not as close to the finish line as I am in my marathon training. Yet I am savouring these moments and reminding myself that this phase is magical and that I don’t need to sprint. I am jogging at a steady pace, just like I will do next week, already honoured by a handful of clients who have chosen me for their coaching journey. In fact, for my coaching business, there is no finish line in mind, just the joy of running and helping people.

Thank you for everyone who is running with me physically and metaphorically 🙂

Happy weekend everyone!

Marathon training – only 3 weeks to go!

Today, for the very first time since training for my marathon, I was without my personal trainer. This was a massive game changer for me and I felt quite anxious about it for days leading up to this morning.

Thankfully, my husband helped me and ran as far as he could go with me, 14 miles to be precise, which I think is amazing given the fact that he hasn’t been training for a marathon week-in, week-out. When he couldn’t run any longer, he went to get our children and they surprised me by cheering me on from the car or from different spots where they knew I’d run by.

At 17 miles, for the first time, I hit a massive wall, figuratively speaking of course. I didn’t think I could carry on, I cried and felt very sorry for myself. Everything was hurting and my mind was trying to prove me right by saying that, of course, the sensible thing to do would be to stop. Then, when I ran past my house, my husband gave me some fresh water, some Pretzel crackers and Jelly babies and told me that he knew I could do the last 4 miles loop. Well, I am sat here now and I have broken a new personal limit – I have run 21 miles.

And, of course, what he did was to be a coach and remind me that I had the ability to do it – he released my strength. This is exactly what I do for others when I have the privilege to coach them but sometimes we just need a little helping hand ourselves to remember that in the mind there are no limits other than the ones we have built for ourselves.

So, I am feeling more inspired than ever, on my journey as a life coach and on my journey training for my Endurance Life Marathon on 03.10.2020!

Thank you for everyone who is following me, believing in me and supporting a fantastic cause!

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Self compassion and self appreciation in children

As a mother, some of the values that I often tried to pass onto my children have been to be kind to others, modest and thoughtful. I have therefore spent a lot of time teaching my children how to love others.

Since starting my coaching journey with children I have realised how little time, as parents, we spend teaching our children how to appreciate themselves, their qualities and how to look after themselves.

The picture below shows some star cards that I picked from a Relax Kids card game I play with children where I get them to talk about their qualities and what they are proud of about themselves. I have found this activity eye opening and very humbling and it has changed the way I relate to my own children.

Self compassion, self belief and self love all flourish when we are children and learning these skills early on in life gives us an amazing head start.